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Friday, 20 November 2009 00:00

On our second date we went jogging.  The day before, I frantically invaded my roommate's closet to research what avid runners wore.  I wasn't a runner but willingly accepted the challenge because how hard was it to run a couple of blocks and, oh my gosh, he was so cute.  The plan was to run from my apartment building down to Lake Michigan for a total of two miles.  Only, I begged for a water break outside of Macy's a mere seven blocks from my front step.  The door man knew me by name and welcomed me to my familiar stomping grounds.  My future husband smirked at my smile of relief and no words needed to be exchanged to understand.  I.  Was.  Not.  A.  Runner.


On our second date we had everything bagels, wearing jogging threads, inside the mall.


On our third date he asked me if I enjoyed the outdoors, specifically camping.  "My most memorable camping trip was at Yellowstone with my father."  I flirted with my eyes.  I failed to mention that it was the only time I "camped" and ended up sleeping in the van down by the river frightened of bugs.  Ew.  And animals (I dislike animals).  Double eww. "I really loved Yellowstone."  I honestly admitted after remembering the natural beauty of the mountains, giving him just enough information without out right lying to him.


On our third date we decided to go on a day long hike, as our next date, seeing we were both outdoor hobbyists.  It was a very good fourth date (hi mom and dad!!!) that ended up with blisters, on my part, from the wrong choice of footwear which resulted in a magical foot massage.


Throughout the early days of courting I never lied to him but did dance around the truth to appear more "his type."  Only to shamelessly find myself stuck in a bad Bridget Jones type of scenario that shed more light on my true persona than I was ready to admit.  He smirked a lot back in those days.  I like to think that I am always in control as I awkwardly avoid the truth and manipulate to get the things that I want but in the end I'm pretty sure he had me all figured out by our second date.  And that's the ugly truth.

Last Updated on Friday, 20 November 2009 00:31


# anna b bonkers 2009-11-20 00:36
totally cute!
# megan 2009-11-20 00:44
ummmm...i thought i would 'impress' my now-husband/then-boyfriend with my love of the outdoor for our first spring break together by hiking and backpacking part of the A.T. in March. Silly Girl... we ended up on day two in a holiday inn - me, with leg cramps so bad he had to lift me into the shower. not good. i've learned to "keep it real" since then...sort of...
# Pauline 2009-11-20 23:40
Oh. Em. Gee.... Megan. THAT is awesome.
# haniaski 2009-11-20 00:45
very cute !
but I was " good " skier !
# Zoeyjane 2009-11-20 03:33
We were thinking the same movie at the same time.
# Pauline 2009-11-20 23:42
Crazy. Crazy. But I am not surprised. Although we are so different from one another I do like to think we have the same tastes.
# melissa 2009-11-20 08:15
love it! and it was just little white twists on the truth. i mean, you do walk, right? walking and running aren't THAT distant of cousins. and you go outside, right? so???
ok fine.
# Flea 2009-11-20 08:27
You were one of those girls, huh? LOL! And now you have a personal trainer. And are a fantastic mom. And he so knew what he was getting into. :)
# Mrs Lemon 2009-11-20 09:42
lol! My husband told me he likes to fish, and I was straight up honest with him, that there was no way I was going to touch worms and fish, or cook whatever he caught. I'd be on higher ground with a good book if he needed me.
# stephanie Griffin 2009-11-20 10:52
lol, everyone does that you know! I'm just as guilty as you are!
# lceel 2009-11-20 11:13
Oh, Sweetheart, there is no truth about you that's ugly - and THAT is the ugly truth.
# Jaina 2009-11-20 14:01
And now you have three darling children, the house that love built and a wonderful husband :)
# George G Smith Jr 2009-11-20 15:22
It's funny because your story is simply what dating is. Everyone enters the initial dates thinking that they know what they want. And through a series of half truths and what not - we end up finding out that what we really wanted is probably not the truth, and ultimately just find someone we truly enjoy. Sounds like you did!
# Pauline 2009-11-20 23:44
But of course you really read into the post George.... and of course you point out something that I did not even think about. You are right. I think it's just a part of every healthy relationship.
# Mama Kat 2009-11-20 22:45
I agreed to be my boyfriend's assistant volleyball coach and I despised everything about it...accept for the late night dinners we were forced to grab after tournaments to "discuss the team". Hahahaha...he had no idea I could have cared less about "the team".

He knows now.

Love your story!! Call me when you're in the area...we'll go for a hike...through...the...mall.
# Pauline 2009-11-20 23:45
For sure. I am awesome at hiking through the mall. It is my hobby.
# drohmommy 2009-11-20 23:33
The ugly truth of the running scenario was that she was hot (and still is)!!! I just wanted to see her in running attire.
# Pauline 2009-11-20 23:45
HUSBAND >>>> you never told me THE only reason you made me go running was to see me in a running outfit. You are a naughty man.
# Renny 2009-11-21 00:00
Sounds like a beautiful truth to me. He knew who you were. That's love. I love it. :)
# Kate Coveny Hood 2009-11-21 04:42
Did he claim to LOVE shopping and designer shoes? I hope you dragged him around the mall on one of those first dates...
# Al_Pal 2009-11-21 05:31
Tee hee. There is a song by the Lemonheads, "I lied about being the outdoor type".

You might get a kick out of it. :D

I go camping, but it is almost always festival camping, next to the car, not long hikes and carrying a ton of stuff on your back. I couldn't do that. :P
# Kelley 2009-11-21 06:25
I didn't reveal my true superpower of awesomeness until we had been dating for at least 6 months.

Cause I didn't want to make him feel inadequate...

# amy 2009-11-21 09:20
So cute and so true. We hiked through the metroparks with my dogs when we dated, I told him I camped a couple of times.... but he now knows after 10 years of marriage and 11 years together that my idea of camping is a hotel without roomservice.LOL
P.S he hasn't been an outdoor guy in years and like a woman has gained weight. makes me feel better ;)
# Kristy K 2009-11-21 09:41
I bet he knew from day 1 that you we're outdoorsy... he just wanted to see how far you'd take it :). You had him at "hello" or "stiletto" ;).
# Courtney 2009-11-21 11:02
So cute, love the comment from your hubby. I told the very cute boy in bio class that I wanted to see the Beavis and Butthead movie too(yeah right, I had never seen the show), hoping he would get the hint to ask me out. He did and we are now expecting our 2nd any day now :) and thankfully the movie was sold out!
When you "know" it is something special sometimes you just say certain things...
# dysfunctional mom 2009-11-23 03:38
But he loved you anyway - of course!

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Pauline Karwowski.

Is a self proclaimed globe trotting, minivan driving, SAHM stiletto ho.

Happily married mother to 3 Cleveland natives: Jay the son, Lola the daughter, and Fifi the banshee.

Now in Chicago, IL.

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